Friday, September 3, 2010

Life as Is

Well, my family's visit came and went. They are really cool family members and we really enjoyed the kids.
From the date of July 28th to the date of Aug 29 My husband and I had attempted, with my mom's permission, to regulate, as per dosed by Dr, my mom's perscription medications. We did this because for the past three years she has been giving her meds to her husband David (or he was taking them, either way). Well, her last monthly prescription was filled on Thursday Aug 26th (two days early from expected date of 30 days apart). She said we could help with the daily dosing again so she wouldn't run out early due to David, etc; however upon us recieving the bottles of meds the evening of the 26th, she had already removed 30:180 percocet pills and 5:90 oxycontin pills. The morning she recieved her prescription (Aug 26th) my husband and I gave her the last of her normal prescription dosage. That Friday, we left for Ruidoso and left her three days dosage (Friday, Sat, Sun) in individual plastic daily dosage containers which stated the time of day and day of dosage. The dosage was three oxycontin per day and 6 percocet per day. She called 7 times on Sunday, when we were out of town and phone range, and stated we didn't give her enough meds and that "how could we do her this way" and that she didn't want us to control her meds/dosing any longer. So, on Monday, John took her all her pills and told her to not call us when she runs out and also not to call us for help with money if it is because she had to pay cash for her meds due to Dr. hopping for extra meds during the month (she had been Dr. hopping and getting extra meds for three months prior to our taking over dosaging).
Well, now it appears, she has told family members we said we didn't want her to call us "ever again" and that we won't help her with "anything". This isn't the case. Both she and her husband are drug addicts and are dependant and codependant upon each other.
This has been extremely sad for me, as I see my mom slowly dying and her relationship to David being the reason for her early demise. I have been too too stressed by her problems and as much as I love her, I MUST separate myself from this situation. FYI, I did try to call her to rectofy the situation last Tuesday but whoever picked up the phone hang up on me. My husband John also tried to call last Wed and someone hang up on him too. I'm really sad that this came to this, but Drug addition is SOOOO bad and it obviously changes a person. Mom only cares about herself and David and has no gratefulness for all we have done for her. It is sad that she will probably die like this and there is nothing I can do to save her. It is so so sad.

4 comments:

Becky said...

This whole situation sounds really stressful, Aunt Denise. I'm so sorry that so much of this burden falls on you. Please know that I love you and appreciate everything you are doing for Grandma - even if she is being a pill.

ldupbeat said...

Thanks Becky,
I appreciate the support. I really hope that some day she will get better.

Jube said...

I'm so sorry to hear that this didn't work out. It seemed like such a promising strategy! The last thing you need is more stress. We love you. Let me know if there is anything we can do (from afar) to help, or give a call if you just want to talk.

ldupbeat said...

Thanks Jenn,
Right now I am "licking my wounds" LOL I feel better already, sad, but better :)